First, you’ll throw out the old rulebook of norms, rules, and expectations, and embrace sex through the lens of your own individual values and standards. You’ll learn a general approach to intimacy that challenges both mainstream and even standard “sex-positive” teaching by centering harm reduction and liberation from societal scripts.

Next you’ll set yourself a vision for what true abundance looks like for you, around touch, sex, love, friendship and intimacy. You’ll explore what’s getting in the way, and connect your ability to show up in integrity with the realization of your vision.

Before the sexy stuff, you’ll learn to minimize your own harm. Using a framework for repair that centers your integrity, you’ll learn to recognize “landmine” scenarios and practice double-down inquiries, one-sided vulnerability, and proactive social obligation release. You’ll also learn how to recognize and avoid the most common pitfalls of harmful apologies, like: entitlement, petulant vulnerability, insincerity, and incoherence.

“Rolling out the red carpet for No” means making it as pleasurable to say no to you as it is to say yes! In a culture where we’re instructed, incentivized, and conditioned to say yes regardless of desire, this is possibly the most impactful and appreciated skill that you can add to your erotic toolkit. You’ll learn the concept, why it’s GREAT for your sex life, and concrete skills for demonstrating safety, far in advance of an intimate encounter.

Let's get deeper and how to say and hear no, even when we're not sure. We'll also explore how to handle community feedback and engage in values-aligned reputation management. How do you separate your desire for someone from an agenda to make something happen? How do you demonstrate attunement far after an encounter is finished? Here you’ll learn how to demonstrate Green Flags, apply the Platinum Rule, and recognize and respond to trauma.

(With Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates). Now that you're covered for repair, you can take bigger sexual risks! Learn new ways to approach the dance of escalation: listening to your own body to sense what’s present, and then naming your sensations and desires with curiosity, not ambition.

From social “rank” to beauty to informal authority, knowing how to notice, name, and navigate power well is the key to ensuring that every sexual encounter is joyous and generative. Plus, intentional power exchange can be super hot! You’ll learn how to recognize and name the power dynamics at play in your own life, and how to catch yourself before they inadvertently come into your sex life. You’ll also learn how power and social rank impacts others’ perceptions, and therefore, your reputation.

(With William Winters) The key skills to being in community include humility, gratitude, compassion, and most of all, accountability to each other. In this final session you’ll wrap up everything you’ve learned into a coherent framework for being sexual within a community, even when things don’t go perfectly, and we’ll co-create a vision for the community we want to build together.